Talking to Your Child About STDs

Why Should I Talk to My Child About STDs?

Discussing STDs with your child is essential for several reasons:

• Children and teenagers need accurate information about STDs without which they may be more susceptible to misinformation and risky behaviours.
• Understanding STDs helps children make healthier choices and recognize the importance of safe practices, such as using condoms and getting regular medical check-ups.
• When children see that they can talk to you about these topics without judgement, they are more likely to seek help if they need it.
• Knowledge empowers children to take control of their sexual health. It also promotes respect for their own bodies and the bodies of others, fostering healthy relationships.
• Some STDs can have serious long-term health consequences if left untreated. Early education can prevent that and encourage safe practices and prompt treatment.

When Should I Talk to My Child About STDs?

Determining the right time to talk to your child about STDs depends on their maturity and developmental stage. Some general guidelines are:

• Early Childhood (Ages 5-8): At this stage, discussions should be simple and age-appropriate. Focus on basic concepts like personal boundaries, body parts, and the importance of keeping certain parts private.
• Pre-Adolescence (Ages 9-12): Begin introducing more detailed information about puberty, bodily changes, and the basics of reproduction. This is also a good time to start discussing the concept of infections and diseases in a general sense.
• Adolescence (Ages 13+): During teenage years, more specific information about STDs should be provided. Discuss different types of STDs, how they are transmitted, symptoms, treatment options, and prevention methods. Adolescents are more likely to understand and retain detailed information.

What Should I Tell My Child About STDs?

When discussing STDs with your child, some key points to cover are:

• Types of STDs: Explain common STDs, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, HPV, HIV/AIDS, herpes, syphilis, and hepatitis. Discuss how each one is transmitted and its symptoms.
• Prevention: Emphasise the importance of using condoms, getting vaccinated (e.g., HPV vaccine), and engaging in mutual relationships where partners have been tested. Explain that preventative measures aren’t 100% effective either.
• Symptoms and Consequences: Describe common symptoms and stress that some STDs can be asymptomatic, meaning a person might not know they are infected. Discuss the potential long-term health consequences if STDs are not treated, such as infertility, chronic pain, or cancer.
• Testing and Treatment: Explain the importance of regular testing and that many STDs are treatable, especially if caught early. Encourage them to seek medical advice if they suspect they have an STD or have been exposed to one.
• Healthy Relationships: Discuss the importance of consent, communication, and respect in relationships. Emphasise that they should never feel pressured into sexual activity and that it’s okay to say no.

I Have a Problem Talking to My Child About STDs. What Should I Do?

It’s common for parents to feel uncomfortable discussing STDs however, some strategies to help you overcome this discomfort are:

• Ensure you have accurate information. Read up on STDs, their symptoms, prevention, and treatment options.
• Rehearse what to say and practise with a partner or friend to gain confidence.
• Utilise reliable resources designed for parents and children. These can provide a framework for your conversation.
• Choose a relaxed, private setting for the conversation. Ensure your child knows that their concerns will be taken seriously.
• Begin talking about body parts, boundaries, and general health early in your child’s life. This makes conversations about STDs a natural progression as they get older.
• Acknowledging discomfort and being honest helps build trust and make the conversation more relatable.
• Consider speaking to a healthcare provider, school counsellor, or a sexual health educator for guidance on how to approach the subject.

Does Talking About Sex Make My Child More Likely to Engage in Earlier Sexual Activities?

This is a common concern among parents however, research consistently shows that this is not the case. In fact, the opposite is often true:

• Children with accurate information about sex and STDs are more likely to make informed and responsible decisions regarding their sexual health.
• Studies show that comprehensive sex education can delay the onset of sexual activity. When children understand the risks and responsibilities involved, they are likely to wait until they feel ready.
• Young people educated about safe sex practices are more likely to use protection and seek regular medical check-ups, reducing the risk of STDs and unintended pregnancies.
• Establishing an open line of communication about sexual health encourages children to seek advice and help when needed, rather than relying on potentially misleading information from peers or the internet.