From Breast to Body Hair: What to Expect Before Your Child’s First Period

• Puberty is a gradual process that starts 2-3 years before the first period.

• Most girls get their period between 9-15 years, with the average age being 12.

• Early signs of puberty can appear as young as 8 years old.

• The first period (menarche) is the final step in a series of changes.

1. Breast Development

• First noticeable sign of puberty.

• Small, firm lumps appear under the nipples (breast buds).

• Growth may be uneven—one breast may grow faster than the other.

• Tenderness or soreness is common.

How to Support Her:

• Offer soft, non-wired bralettes for comfort.

• Reassure her that breast growth happens at different rates.

2. Growth Spurts

• Rapid height increase, often before the first period.

• Arms and legs may appear longer in proportion to the body.

• Hips begin to widen.

How to Support Her:

• Let her know that growth patterns are different for everyone.

• Encourage a balanced diet and physical activity.

3. Body Hair Growth

• Fine, light hair appears in the pubic area and underarms.

• Over time, it becomes darker and thicker.

• Some girls may also notice hair on their upper lip or arms.

How to Support Her:

• Let her decide when she’s comfortable with shaving or hair removal.

• Teach her safe hair removal methods if she chooses to remove body hair.

4. Vaginal Discharge

• Clear or milky white discharge appears in underwear.

• Starts 6-12 months before the first period.

• Helps keep the vagina clean and is completely normal.

How to Support Her:

• Explain that vaginal discharge is a healthy part of puberty.

• Suggest using panty liners if she finds it uncomfortable.

5. Body Shape Changes

• Hips widen and body fat redistributes.

• Some girls experience weight gain—this is natural.

• She may compare herself to friends.

How to Support Her:

• Encourage body positivity—every girl develops at her own pace.

• Promote healthy eating and an active lifestyle.

6. Skin and Hair Changes

• Oil glands become more active, leading to pimples and oily skin.

• Hair may become oilier and need more frequent washing.

How to Support Her:

• Introduce a simple skincare routine (gentle cleansing and moisturizing).

• If acne becomes severe, consult a dermatologist.

7. Mood Swings & Emotional Changes

• Hormonal changes can cause irritability, mood swings, and sensitivity.

• She may feel self-conscious or experience new social pressures.

How to Support Her:

• Keep communication open—let her know it’s okay to feel emotional.

• Help her identify and express her emotions in a healthy way.

• Usually starts 2-2.5 years after breast development begins.

• Cramps, bloating, or mood swings may indicate it’s coming soon.

Signs Her First Period is Close:

• Vaginal discharge has been present for about a year.

• Breasts have developed significantly.

• She’s experiencing lower abdominal cramps or back pain.

• Teach her how to use pads, tampons, or period underwear.

• Keep a small period kit in her school bag (pads, wipes, spare underwear).

• Reassure her that first periods can be unpredictable, but it’s normal.

1. Use Everyday Situations

• If you’re buying sanitary products, say:

• “Hey, have you learned about periods in school? Want to talk about it?”

2. Share Your Own Experience

• Make it relatable:

• “I remember my first period—I was nervous, but my mom helped me through it.”

3. Answer Questions Honestly

• If she asks, “When will I get my period?”, respond:

• “Every girl is different, but I’ll help you be prepared whenever it happens.”

• No breast development by age 13.

• No period by age 15.

• Irregular or very painful periods after they start.

• Excessive hair growth on the face/body, severe acne, or sudden weight gain (possible PCOS signs).

• Puberty can feel overwhelming for both you and your daughter.

• Normalize the process, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

• Be patient, she may not open up immediately, but your support matters.

• Encourage self-care hygiene, healthy eating, and exercise help.